Spirituality

Spirituality for better mental well being   “The problem, often not discovered until late in life, is that when you look for things in life like love, meaning, motivation, it implies they are sitting behind a tree or under a rock. The most successful people in life recognize, that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their own meaning, they generate their own motivation. For me, I am driven by two main philosophies, know more today about the world than I knew yesterday. And lessen the suffering of others. You'd be surprised how far that gets you.”  ― Neil deGrasse Tyson     What do I mean by spirituality? "the quality of being concerned with the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things." Online dictionary   Spirituality, to me can be linked to religion or not. It is an individual, unique awareness and connection to something greater than what we can see. To me it's like having an awareness of my soul, my core. It's...
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The Inner Critic

  The Inner Critic   “Your inner critic is simply a part of you that needs more self-love.”  ― Amy Leigh Mercree, The Compassion Revolution: 30 Days of Living from the Heart   As I get to know myself better I discover different parts of myself. For example the playful part, the creative part, the vulnerable part. One part of me I've been trying to befriend is the bully part, the inner critic. I've gotten more in touch with it over the last few years and have consciously fought to recognise it, listen to it and change the way I interact with it. When we're not feeling good it can feel impossible to get anything done. If we do manage to do something, it's rubbish, it's useless..... We are useless.       The cycle We don't feel good We don't feel like we can do anything Anything we do do is rubbish, it isn't good enough We're not good enough, we're rubbish, we're not good.   This cycle of recognising our perceived inadequacies keeps us in a...
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Why Fern Green Wellness?

Why Fern Green Wellness? Why Fern Green? I love being in nature. Especially in green environments with trees, plants, grasses and ferns. I lived and worked in New Zealand in 2014-2015 and I loved how much wilderness there was to explore. In many cultures, including the Maori culture in New Zealand, the fern is symbolic. It represents sincerity towards others, shelter, hope, posterity, transformation, inspiration, awakening, renewal and hope. Through my research into the fern and it's meanings to people throughout the World, I realised that many of these words represent what I believe counselling can offer.     The fern begins life tightly coiled then goes through growth and change as it unfurls to take on its final form. With the right environment it goes through periods of growth and development. The counselling process can involve a similar pattern and movement given the right conditions. The right conditions can be provided by me, your counsellor. Through our work together parts of you will begin to...
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Working with depression

Depression looks different for each person. It is hard to fully describe with words alone because it's a feeling. A heavy feeling in your stomach that can't always be shifted. Or maybe it's not feeling anything at all.   It's crying easily when something goes wrong or you feel let down. Or not feeling that you enjoy anything anymore, you can't feel love for loved ones. It's a persistent voice inside of your head that says "you're not good enough" "your a failure" and it's so much more.     When I work with people experiencing depression we explore it in words, feelings, bodily sensations and colours. It can help to start to unpick what the depression is, what does it look like and what does it say? Where is it located - is it within you or hanging over you?     Some of the work we do is about getting to know it and letting it have a voice. More than likely because it's unpleasant clients want to...
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